Introduction to Body Mind Institute

Hello all,

I consider my approach to coaching a wholistic approach and recently I met Lars Gustafson who I am excited to tell you a little about, also because of his wholistic approach  and because of a program he has to offer you-for FREE.

Lars is the founder of The BodyMind Institute
as well as an Author, Speaker, Life & Nutrition Guide

Born in East India to Canadian parents, Lars spent his childhood living an authentic mix of tribal and western life. This upbringing created a balance between the scientific passion of the west and the ancient wisdom of the Far East. Lars has spent 23 years exploring and developing nutrition, lifestyle, fitness, and personal development programs.
In 2002, he founded The BodyMind Nutrition System™ to bring you the principles of nutrition that connect the physical and mental, emotional, spiritual aspects of life.  
On Lars website for the Body Mind Institute, he is offerring a FREE STUDENT PASS which includes free access to his Body Mind Renewal program.

I have taken the Body Mind Renewal program and found the 4 page questionnaire very valuable .It takes into consideration your 1)Nutrient factors 2)Digestive & Intestinal Health Factors 3)Exercise/Activity/Lifestyle Based Factors 4)Internal & External Toxicity Factors  and 5)Mental /Emotional/Spiritual Factors.

Consider the questionnaire as a tool and the accompanying information in the program as a guidance system to help you make empowering decisions, along with your doctor or health and wellness professional, to make positive changes in your life.

The Body Mind Renewal program is valued @ $197 and is available FREE with a FREE STUDENT PASS on the Body Mind Institute website. Enjoy!

Coach Ann Hogan

403-519-2179

www.abclifecareer.ca

Life Purpose and Career: Interview with Ann Hogan

Greetings,

On my website , on the about tab, under coaching links, I have a link to The One Question.  I believe the One Question is a helpful website, assisting people to find the answer to the one question we all need an answer for: what should I do with my life?

The One Question conducted an interview with me, posing ten questions from subscribers. Here is the interview…

Ann Hogan is a professional Life-Career Coach with 20+ years of combined life-career experience as a student, medical lab tech, parent, school and community volunteer, facilitator & Certified Life Skills and Career Development Coach.

“One of my personal desires is that every adult who is a role model to children & youth, has the essential life-career skills required for all to enjoy successful relationships, lives & careers,” is what she says about herself.

We asked her 10 questions about career and finding life purpose sent by the readers of The One Question.

1.  Have you found your life purpose? How?

Yes-I believe that my life purpose has evolved to the point where I know I am meant to be a coach, to assist other people to find their life-career satisfaction/success also.

I did a spiritual gift inventory after I became a professional coach and the results indicated that my top 2 gifts were compassion & teaching. I felt very validated by that.

I found my purpose as a coach through a series of processes. The most important point, I think, is that I took the time to reflect on my life experiences.

After raising our children in partnership with my husband and after working as a medical laboratory technologist for over 20 years, I came to a point of feeling “ burned out”. That negative state was a strong sign that something needed to change.

So, I took a leave from work and also attended a 3 day Career Planning workshop. The reflection process in the work shop was where I asked myself such questions as;

What activities were meaningful for me throughout the years, both personally & professionally?
o When did I feel proud/ have a sense of accomplishment? etc.

We did many activities including visualization in that workshop. I came away from the workshop knowing that I wanted to work directly with people, probably on a one to one basis so I could get to know people at a deeper level and to assist them in some way. However, I remained unsure of what my preferred career would be.

Then one day I planned on attending a Power Within seminar. I set an intention that day, as I entered the conference room full of several hundred people, that I would meet someone who would somehow assist me in moving forward with my career choice. I chose a row to sit in and a lady to sit beside. When I struck up a conversation at break time with that lady, she informed me that she was a Life Skills Coach. I loved what she had to say about being a coach and the rest is history. I found out where to get the education/training and I went back to college and earned a two year Life Skills & Career Development Coach diploma.

When I pay attention to my feelings, thoughts, and insights and when my experiences are in alignment with my purpose, I feel fulfilled.

2. What is the best way to find what you love?

I think the best way to find what you love is to take the time to reflect on the experiences you’ve had throughout your life. Do this by asking questions such as;

o What did I love to do as a child?
o What jobs have I had and what did I like about them?
o What leisure activities and hobbies have I enjoyed? What’s the reason I enjoyed them?
o What volunteer work have I been involved in? What are the reasons I got involved?
o What have I been doing when I have lost track of time?
o When have I felt a sense of pride and/or accomplishment?

When you take the time to reflect on different positive experiences in all your life areas, you’re likely to discover a common thread that will lead you to what you love.

3. I am often torn between following my passion and having a job that pays well. Is there a right answer?

If you are feeling torn, you likely think you are being pulled in two opposite directions, like a tug of war. In other words, you believe you have two choices to choose between; following your passion or having a job that pays well.

I think the right answer is a third option. You can have both and feel whole.The important part is that you honour your passion in some area of your life. If not in a well paying job, then apply your passion for yourself, with your family, in your community or in a leisure activity. If you break down the word Passion, it means Pass I On. When you pass part of who you truly are on, then there are many rewards to enjoy.

Also, when you follow your passion, it just may turn into a career that pays well.

I believe that if you do what you love, then the rewards will follow.

4. Can I trust my intuition? Sometimes I have a gut feeling as to what path I should pursue, but my logic tells me many reasons why it could fail. Should I follow my intuition or do the safe thing?

Your feelings are your primary learning domain, your guideposts through life.

If your intuition or gut feelings are guiding you towards a path to pursue, then there are probably many reasons that would promote you along that path. It is very important to consider the pros along with the cons presented by your logic.

Also, it’s probable that what you consider as logical reasons to fail, are fear based reasons. I would encourage you to have a look at which fears are not realistic, also known as False Expectations Appearing Real (F.E.A.R.) and to let them go.

I would also encourage you to take some time to problem solve & create an action plan. Then, you can safely take step by step forward in the path that you are being guided along.

5. I have to make a choice what to study in college. The only problem is that I don’t know what I want! How can I make a smart decision?

This is a very common problem situation for students & it is my opinion that not enough students ask that question. Good for you for asking.

Remember, once you know what to do, it’s important to actually DO IT! Making a smart decision involves taking the time to follow a career development process. When you decide what field of work or specific occupation you want to pursue, then you can figure out what courses you need to get there.

I partner with clients in a seven step process. You would decide on college @ step #5

1. Self-Information; It’s important to determine your main interests, skills, personality traits, values etc.

2. Identify Career Alternatives- through various means, it’s important to generate career options that fit for you

3. Research-also through various means, it’s important to research the top career options that you are considering along with labour market information

4. Decide- Follow a decision making process to pick the career option that will match best for you

5. Prepare- Determine specific action steps required to pursue your preferred career. This is the point where you’ll determine which subjects/courses are required and then you can …

6. Do it- apply/register at an appropriate institution

7. Follow Up/Evaluation-it is always good to set a date/time when you will evaluate how things are progressing in your plan. i.e.) What’s working? What’s not?

6. How can I find more purpose in my job? It’s easy to feel that all I do is make more money for the shareholders.

I would encourage you to take the time to re-evaluate a few things at this point.

I wonder…What were the reasons that you took the job in the first place? What attracted you to that field of work or to that company or to that particular position? Is that attraction still present?

Were you aware of the company’s mission statement and values when you took the job? Were you aware of your own values? Did they match? Do they now?

What are the strengths that you brought to the position? Do they still apply? What duties/tasks /assignments do you still enjoy? Can you better apply your strengths in other ways in the company i.e.) take on new challenges or make a move within the company to a new position?

You can update yourself about what’s important for you to be and do & find meaningful ways to apply yourself.

If your values match the company’s values & you enjoy what you are doing and are working towards a common purpose, then it will feel better to contribute towards the company’s prosperity. It’s a win-win situation where you are likely to enjoy in the profits as well.

7.  I want to pursue a career in philosophy, but I am worried about the financial security of such a pursuit. What should I do?

The short answer is …I believe that if you do what you love, then the rewards will follow.

Philosophy students learn to be critical thinkers/problem solvers and communicators, among other skills. Those highly transferable skills may not pay off in a big way at the entry level positions in business, however those leadership skills will assist a person to eventually move ahead into positions which will provide more financial security such as the management and executive positions.

Worry is a form of FEAR (False Expectations Appearing Real) about the future.

Do what you can in the present to plan the pursuit of your preferred career.

There are a variety of career options open to graduates with a philosophy degree. If philosophy is your passion, then you may consider earning a Ph.D. and work directly in the teaching or research fields.

8. If my only passion is for learning how do I apply this in my life as the benefits seem to rebound to myself only. How do I make a career out of learning?

What a great passion to have!

Continuous learning is an essential skill to have in this day & age of constant changes and rapid information, regardless of what career you prefer to pursue.

As far as how do you make a career out of learning? I can brainstorm many options. A researcher is constantly looking for new information/learning. Or, you can chose to share/teach your learning with others as a traditional teacher, tutor, facilitator, public speaker, trainer, coach etc. You did not mention what you love to learn about. Depending on that answer, other options include being involved in an offshoot of the learning industry i.e.) creating learning aids/materials, inventing, writing, illustrating etc. or marketing / selling learning materials, programs, workshops etc.

Depending on what subjects are the objects of your passion, the are many related options that will benefit both you and others.

9. Is there a surefire way to choose a career that will give me satisfaction?

Yes. In the first step of the the seven step career planning process that I use to assist clients in deciding on a preferred career, there is a process that aids a person to find career satisfaction.

The first step is Self-Information. It’s important to determine your main interests, skills, personality traits, values etc.

An additional process here to ensure career satisfaction is to develop your True North, a personal compass which acts as an aid to move forward in the right direction for you.  You decide on 5 of your 20 priority skills, interests, personality traits and values that you want to honour in your preferred career. Ideally you want to find a working environment that matches all 5. However, realistically if you can find a match for 3 of the 5, then you can still enjoy career satisfaction.

10. Does my life purpose have to be my job? Why?

No, I do not think that your life purpose has to be your job. Your job is only part of a balanced life and you may honour who you are by applying your life purpose in other life areas; with your family, in your community (the one you live in or the community at large) or in your leisure life etc. If you are living on purpose in any of these areas then you will reap the rewards of feeling positive emotions i.e.) satisfied, joyful, energized fulfilled etc.

Having said that, if you are working fulltime, then the majority of your day (generally 5 days a week, 40 or more hours a week plus commute time, overtime etc.) is concentrated on your job. Ideally then, if you were able to honour your life purpose in your job, then you would have more opportunity to make a difference and feel those positive emotions more consistently.

Remember, the most important point is that you honour who you are meant to be in some way, in some area of your life and/or career and enjoy.

You can contact Ann at ABC Life & Career Skills:  http://abclifecareer.ca

The Relaxed Look – It’s a choice!

Something to consider at this time of year…

How familiar are you with the “harried” look ? I’m sure you know the look. It’s the distressed look of “I’m never going to get done what I have to get done in a day/ a week/ a year /a lifetime!” look. It’s the “I’m never going to make it there on time!” or the “I’m about to fall apart!” look.
Isn’t it ironic that in today’s fast paced, ever changing, high speed of information & technology world, that what “harried” people need the most is to take time. Rather I should say, to manage time, to SLOW DOWN , to literally catch their breath and to spend quality time in relaxation by their self, with a friend or with family.
It’s great to take a vacation period and/or a trip to get away from it all when you are able. What about when that is not possible for various reasons? How can a person cope with all of modern day & life’s changes and stressors on a daily basis?
Please consider this…If you are feeling “harried” or “stressed out” and are having difficulty coping well, start taking 10-15 minutes a day to engage in some form of deeper than usual relaxation. Take a break  to do relaxing exercises, take a walk, listen to soothing music, meditate, journal, pray, have a laugh, take a bath or take part in a healing treatment. Do whatever healthy activity slows you down long enough to breathe deeply. Start with three deep breaths. When you allow yourself to relax on a consistent basis, building up to perhaps a half hour to an hour a day, you will eventually regain energy, be able to think & solve problems more creatively, plan more effectively etc. You might even have FUN. You deserve it !
How do you think such a change might impact your relationships both at work and at home?

Do you want to appear & feel “harried and stressed out” or “relaxed and well“? Your choice !
COACH’S CHALLENGE:

 Manage Your Time Well - Slow Down and Breathe for Balance in Your Life-Career!

Authored by Ann Hogan

If you’d like to purchase a gift certificate for a birthday or other holiday gift(s)  for an hour or more of Life- Career Coaching  just contact me…  Ann Hogan CLS.CDC, ABC Life & Career Skills 403-519-2179 .

Work Smarter Not Harder: Attracting The Results You Want

All of us set goals – a new car or home, a new job or career, an education, or perhaps reaching for a long held dream. Goals come in all shapes and sizes. They mark a sense of accomplishment. We define what we want, we declare it to others around us, we work hard at reaching the goal, and we feel the sense of accomplishment, when we finally reach the goal.I want to make a few distinctions between how we set and get goals and how to begin to work smarter and not harder in the process. Here are three methods: 1. Struggling for your goals: going against the flow, trying to paddle upstream, working harder. 2. Not setting goals at all: going with the flow, being swept up in someone else’s goals, work hard later. 3. Setting goals that speak to your values and positioning yourself to attract your goals and their results: being in the flow, working smarter.Sometimes, when we reach our goal, we feel the gratitude of having done it, but it also leaves us exhausted. We feel that we had to work very hard to get there. We had to push ourselves to make it happen. We didn’t notice we were paddling upstream. Other times we find ourselves in the midst of great energy and activity but we feel somehow outside it, it is happening to us and we have not yet discovered just how we really feel about it, we were going with the flow and discovered our destination was not our own. Then, there are those wonderful times, when we are moving along with what we are doing and it seems extremely effective and almost effortless. It seems to just happen rather than you making it happen. Like pedaling your bike along on a flat, you can feel your energy being used to its best purpose, or paddling a canoe with the flow of the river, we put forth our energy, but it is multiplied by the synergy of river and paddler working together. That is the feel of being in the flow.Flow was identified in long distance running, because it seemed upon reaching a certain point, the running just seemed to take place without effort in an almost ecstatic frame of mind. This is true for many sports and it also applies in business and your personal life.How can you use the flow to work smarter not harder? Let’s say you want to obtain a new job. The more you push and stress, (paddle upstream) the harder it seems to attract a new position. But by treating your existing job, colleagues and your network of family, friends and business contacts, with the highest level of integrity and care and communicating with positive openness to possibility as well as looking for opportunities to connect in the business community rather than just a job, you can get in the flow which is attractive to, not only your network, but potential employers as well. They can feel the ease that the flow creates in you and are more apt to feel comfortable and drawn to discovering with you. That ease is reflected in your well thought out, professional resume and your confident, yet modest attitude you use to discuss your skills and abilities. Colleagues and others in your network begin to discuss opportunities you might want to pursue, they mention people they know that might be able to open a door for you in a company you are researching, it begins to seem effortless, you are in the flow! Yes, you still have to work (paddle) at reaching the goal: researching companies, discovering the avenues that align with your values, extending your network, enlisting support, creating a resume, your marketing tool. However, you will enjoy the smoother, swifter journey not just the destination.Coaches Challenge: If you want to work smarter rather than harder, ask your self these questions and fashion your answers with honesty: What goals have you set for yourself? Do they truly speak to your values? What attitude will you have to adopt for you to reach your goal? What kind of support do you need? What paddling will you need to do to get in the flow? What will it take to make the journey effortless? Who do you need to be? How can I open the door to possibility?
By Kate Steinbacher and Daniela Bryan

What is Your Risk Quotient?

 “And the day came when the risk (it took) to remain tight in the bud was more painful that the risk it took to blossom.” –Anais Nin

 Work as a coach encompasses helping people to take calculated risks that will move them outside of their comfort zones, in an effort to discover what may be possible that they could never see before, usually because they were too close to the subject at hand.

How many of us have stayed in an unsatisfactory job or relationship that was not fulfilling because it was too risky to make a necessary change? One very important fact that we forget to realize is, that change does not have to be all encompassing. Change can be in steps, we do not have to quit our job and struggle to find the next path. We do not have to throw away our relationship and look for a new partner. Taking the steps can feel risky but can open doors to satisfaction and success.

When an unsatisfactory job is at stake, we can begin to evaluate what it is that is causing the dissatisfaction. We can fashion a discovery process in which we create various tasks to gain clear insight into what is working and what is not. We may discover that the company is one in which we place value, but the position is too limiting. Change, in this case, may be a matter of discovering what avenues there are to a more responsible position. The answer may not be simple, perhaps more education or training but at least we can then plan to make it happen and create a time line. Suddenly our old job is a stepping-stone to the next level, not an unsatisfying ordeal. The first risk is to be willing to look at the whole picture of our dilemma, and figure out what smaller steps (risks) we can take to begin to move the situation into a better light.

What about an unsatisfactory relationship? In this case it may be mustering up the courage to communicate with our partner from a more loving place. We may have to put away our need to be right and be open to being a better listener. We may have to make a pact with our partner to have conversations, where we each get time to say our part (lovingly and without blame) and then hear the others as well. We may both have to give up being defensive, feeling victimized and begin to create a safe place for each to speak their mind, in a loving manner. The risk is always rejection and hurt, but without the risk there is anger, discomfort and unhappiness too.

Coach’s Challenge:
Do we want to stay in bud where it is dark and restrictive or bloom? To bloom it takes courage, honesty and the willingness to sometimes fail. The pain of staying where we are has to be greater than the pain of taking a risk. Take a look at where you are in your job and relationships. What small risks can you take to begin to move them in a direction of blossoming?

By Kate Steinbacher

How to Prepare to attend Career Shows

Friday Oct. 29th, 10 AM – 5 PM  &  SAT OCT 30, 10 AM – 4 PM   BMO CENTRE, STAMPEDE PARK

A career show or fair is a great opportunity to gather educational & career development information as well as an opportunity to meet face to face with many potential employers/recruiters if you are in job search mode.

So how does a person prepare to attend a Career Show as part of their job search?

1. Do Your Research


Before attending the career show, identify which of the participating employers booths are of priority interest to you and conduct a preliminary research about the companies products and services. Most participating companies have websites you can check out ahead of time. Being knowledgeable about the company portrays a genuine interest. Be sure that the type of job position you are seeking is related to what the company may hire for.

2. Resume Writing


Update and polish up your resume. You may choose to get professional assistance from a Career Coach in either developing your resume and/or having it checked over before making many printed copies to handout to various employers. Where possible, customize your resume to meet the specific needs of each company and position better. It’s important to be honest on your resume, to include accomplishments without embellishing. Also, ensure resumes are free from grammatical and typographical errors. Print resumes using quality paper.

Note: The Calgary Career Show offers a resume critique booth for quick critiques

3. Dress the Part


If you are attending the career show as part of your job search then you need to dress the part. Wear clothing appropriate to the type of position you are seeking when you are meeting potential employers. The rule of thumb is to dress a notch above what you would normally be expected to wear on a day to day basis while performing the job duties.

4. Allow Enough Time


Get a good night’s sleep before attending a career show so you have enough energy. Arriving first thing in the morning may be better as the exhibitors will not have tired from meeting with so many people yet and may have more time to spend with you. Allocate enough time to meet with everyone on your priority list.

5. Display a Positive Attitude


It’s important when you are meeting with the booth’s representatives that you appear confident that you can make a positive contribution if you were to be hired into their company. Show up prepared and enthusiastic. Greet people with a smile, a direct greeting and a firm handshake. Be courteous, remembering common courtesies such as please and thank you.

6. Practice Good Communication Skills


Introduce yourself using eye contact while greeting the booth’s representative. Note the representative’s name from their name tag or ask their name and use it in your conversation when possible. Be prepared to introduce yourself in as little as 30 seconds in the case of a busy booth . It’s important that you clearly relate how your education and/or experience and accomplishments match with positions the company may be hiring for. Given more time, talk about the main points regarding what you know about the company and ask pertinent questions related to your career interests and goals/position you are seeking. Ask if you may leave your resume.

7. Trade Business Cards


It’s a good idea to develop business cards to hand out along with your resumes. Also request one from the booth’s representative before you leave so you can follow up with them. Close by shaking hands, thanking them for their time and reiterating your interest in working for their company. Let them know that you look forward to hearing from the company in the near future.

8. Follow Up

Send a thankyou note or email to the company representative, preferrably within 48 hours to one week after meeting with them. The sooner the better to ensure that they remember you. Besides thanking them for their time in meeting with you, you can reiterate your strong points (skills etc.) and emphasize your match with the specific needs they are looking for. Send a customized resume if you did not already submit one . Finally, check in with the company in a couple of weeks for any new opportunities.

9. Maintain that Positive Attitude

Maintaining self-confidence is important during a worksearch. Keep your thoughts positive, take care of yourself and continue to network until you are successful.

Ultimate Guide To Success e-Book

I had the pleasure of contributing to a collaborative writing of an e-Book entitled Ultimate Guide to Success, where 80 coaches share their biggest secrets.

The Ultimate Guide to Success e-Book is packed with Life-Career Lessons.
It shares some of the most powerful ideas for Success in all Life and Career Areas including Personal, Relationships and Business.
You will finally have some professional tools to gain the success you’ve been wanting and didn’t know how to attain.

In this 434 page Ultimate Success Guide e-book, you’ll discover simple, direct, and effective coaching advice for improving virtually every aspect of your life. Take a look now at some of the contributions included…

 

My own contribution:How to Succeed by Using a Wholistic Approach to Life?

By  Ann Hogan

Letting Go of Anxiety in Minutes By Elaine Sum

Your Discovery Channel: How to find a midlife career direction that fires your passion, fits your personality, and fills your pocket! By Kathy Britchenauer

How to Live a Prosperous Life Right Now! By Christine Loff

How to Overcome Difficult People, the Executive’s Way By Carla Schnitker

How to Land a Great Coach “ Strategies for Success By Kimberly Gale

The Ultimate Financial Guide: Bringing your Financial World Together Simply By Sheila Hutchinson

Ten Tips for creating a lifelong web of friends by networking By Susan Feder

Time Management Secrets: How To Manage Your Energy, Not Your Time By Valerie Thomson

How To Value Your Time And Change Your Business From A Job To A Saleable Asset By Dr. Greg Chapman

How to SUCCESSFULLY – Survive a Burnout!! By Helena Clift

Build a Broader Coalition to Expand Your Piece of the Pie By Kayte Connelly

Your Performing Edge: Mind-Body Fitness Guide By Dr. JoAnn Dahlkoetter

How to Replace the 5 Benefits of Work When You Retire By Jane Hardwick

How to Focus on Your Strengths and See Your Doubts Disappear By Janet Bowen

Surviving a Life-Threatening Disease By Renee Alexopoulos

HOW TO LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE IN RETIREMENT: Six Questions to Ask Yourself NOW By Kay Goldberg

Set Your Inner Elder Free: How to Unleash Your Inner Elder…and Why Your Life’s Second Half Depends on You Getting It Right! By Gail McConnon

The Successful Mindset: How to Think Like a Winner By Suzanne Lieurance

Energetic Leadership By Janice Bastani

How To Cut Through The Clutter. Seven Tips To Help You Find Bliss And Productivity By Pam Bryan

How to Develop Your Millionaire Mindset By Dr. Patricia A. Cardner

How To Overcome The Pitfalls Of Perfectionism And Achieve Success Faster! By Gabriella Caldwell-Miller

‘On The Go’ Foods That Fuel You In Five Easy Steps By Randi Cestaro

Tap Into the Law of Attraction to Lose Weight without Dieting By Andrea Amador

FEAR BUSTING: How to Move Past Fear and Achieve Success in Your Career and Life By Nancy Horwitz

Trouble Creating A Product? How to discover your Product Creation Style and leverage it to create products faster, more easily and more economically. By Maiya Rose Benda

How to Transform Relationships from Good Enough…to Great! By Ellen Grinstead

Sing Yourself Healthy: Using Your Voice to Increase Your Energy and Improve Your Life By Gwen Chappell

IS CLUTTER KILLING YOUR SPIRIT? How to Get Clutter-Free and Regain Your Life By Terry S. Atkinson

The Ultimate Guide to Success: How to Free the Indomitable Human Spirit By Lorraine King-Markum

The Power of Permission: (Sometimes all you need is a little permission to create the life you want)By Jacqueline Wales

How to be an effective manager: the three powers every manager must wield By Loretta Love Huff

Power Parenting: 10 Steps Toward a Peaceful Home By BJ Moorer

How to Increase Your Confidence in 3 Steps By Alana Clow

Negotiating with Integrity: Keys to Success Without Selling Your Soul By Carrie Gallant

How to Have Your Retirement Income Outlive You By Anita Kirkman

Creating a Business Doing What You Love By Barbara Didion

How to Recognize your Personal Patterns and improve your Communication By Narelle Shamrock

How to Leverage your Faith and Spiritual Gifts in your Life and Business By Tressa Ryan The U Factor: 6 Steps to Living an Extraordinary Life Authentically By Shawntel McBride

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ETC…

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Call Coach Ann, ABC Life & Career Skills, 403-519-2179 , Awareness. Balance. Change

What are Resiliency Skills?

What are Resiliency Skills?

Resilience is defined in Dictionary.com as…
1. the power or ability to return to the original form, position etc., after being bent, compressed or stretched.
2. ability to recover readily from illness, depression, adversity or the like: buoyancy.

Synonyms are; elasticity, health, healthiness, strength, tonicity, vigor.

Skills is defined as proficiency, facility, or dexterity that is acquired or developed through training or experience.

Synonyms are; abilities- a general word for power (native or acquired) enabling one to do things well, talents, aptitudes.

With the above definitions & understanding of Resiliency Skills in mind, please imagine yourself as being composed of elastic band type material…
How resilient do you think you are?
I encourage you to think about how you have either reacted or responded to life-career situations up to this point in your life…
Have you been able to stretch, been aware of your limitations, set boundaries and responded by bouncing back from everyday situations, changes & stresses?
OR…Have you been resisting your ability to stretch & instead have become rigid or brittle?
OR….Have you pushed yourself beyond your limitations, known no personal boundries & have temporarily snapped or become broken in some way ?
What’s the result at this point? Are you in a condition of healthiness / wellness or are you feeling unhealthy / unwell?
I have provided a list below for you to take inventory of your resiliency skills. Feel free to check the ones that you use consistently. Consider the skills that you effectively use in a consistent manner as your strengths & celebrate them!

_________Resiliency Skills Inventory______________

Otherwise known as Essential Skills or Life-Career Skills
__________ I practice Continual Learning
__________I know and practice skills that honour the 3 primary needs of a group & me
__________I know & understand the stages & dynamics of group / team development
__________I know, understand & consistently use five components of effective listening skills
__________I know, understand & practice the use of effective questions as part of my communication skills, knowing to avoid questions that may possibly impact some people to become defensive.
__________I use competency based language to gain cooperation vs. deficiency based language which can lead to conflict.
__________I know & understand basic concepts of the human brain and use both logical & creative thinking
__________I know the guidelines for effective brainstorming & am able to contribute effectively to a brainstorming session.
__________I know at least one method to mind-map brainstorming
__________I have a method & am able to remember a list of at least ten items or tasks accurately using only my mind (Memory Skill).
_________I challenge myself to do things that I initially feel Nervousness / FEAR around I.E.) I have and use presentation skills to Give a Talk
_________I know about, understand about and practice being Emotionally Intelligent so that I can reap the benefits of Emotional Wellness and ____be empathetic to others.
_________I know and use methods for giving and receiving feedback in a caring manner for both personal and professional situations.
________ I have and use a consistent and effective system for Problem Solving any situation for myself or with a group
________I can identify which behaviours are not serving myself or others well (harmful) and I know how to shift those behaviours to be helpful.
________I understand that I make assumptions every day and some may lead to harmful behaviours if left unchecked
________I know & use three freedom factors to check in with my assumptions of self and others.
________I understand the basic physiology of ANGER & recognize unhealthy ways myself & others may react when ANGRY.
_______ I know how to and I Manage my anger in a healthy manner.
_______ I also know how to effectively Manage others’ ANGER .
________I practice being a Balanced and Self Determined person.

________END OF INVENTORY______________________________

How was that for you? Did you recognize your skill strengths?
Where (in what areas of your life-career) do you use your strengths?
How can you transfer the use of your strengths(skills) to other situations and /or areas of your life-career that may still require more resiliency?
What skills did you not check off that you think might benefit you to develop?
Remember that Continuous Learning is one of the Resiliency Skills required to effectively cope with the continual changes in life-career.
“It’s better late than never” to learn new tricks (Skills)!

Identify , strengthen & learn new Skills to become a more RESILIENT YOU!

 Contact Coach Ann now  for a complimentary “Meeting One Another ” call or to book your coaching session. 
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Create Your A-Team

Create Your A Team

Have you ever thought about how successful people maintain their high levels of success and keep motivating themselves to go ever higher? I have worked with successful individuals and companies and I would like to share with you one of their secrets to success.
This concept can be used to increase your success in all areas of your life. In your business, your home life and especially when you are in the market to change careers or jobs.
One secret of successful people is creating your “A” Team. Your “A” Team is a group of people you can count on to be there to help you work through challenges, brainstorm new ideas, encourage you to move past your “stuck spots” more quickly, AND help you to celebrate your wins. Successful people are always looking for people to add to their “A” Team. They know and bank on the benefits of surrounding themselves with positive and energized people with varied areas of expertise. Successful people have discovered that these alliances create faster, greater growth and success for every member of the Team.
What kind of people do you want on your Team? It is really about a positive attitude toward life and work, challenges and celebration. Think for yourself about the people in your world: In whose shoes would you feel proud and energized to walk for a week? Here are some ideas of the kind of people you might like to draft for your team: This is a team of people that you find successful in their own right, enthusiastic, motivating, and good listeners. These people are those to whom you can call on for brainstorming and as thought provoking sounding boards for your ideas and concepts. They are encouragers with minds that are open to possibility. They see change as a catalyst for growth and mistakes as part of the path to learning and even greater success. They believe in win – win solutions to every situation. They act from a place of collaboration and believe in sharing knowledge and expertise. Think of some other kinds of people you may want on your “A” Team. Sometimes it helps to think of a person in whose company you feel positive and energized and then think of what is it about that person, their attitude, demeanor etc that creates that feeling.
Where do you find team members? Just about anywhere in your world. Your team can be comprised of family members, friends, business associates, business people doing the kind of work in which you have an interest, spiritual leaders, Life and Career Coaches, consultants, teachers, any of the professionals you may employ to keep your financial, business and personal world spinning properly. Look at the people in all areas of your life, see which people fit the criteria you have set for your team.
The secret to a great “A’ Team is a spirit of giving, cooperation and success for ALL involved.
In that spirit, please pass on this newsletter to anyone you believe may benefit.

Coaches Challenge: Begin to create your personal “A” Team. Discover what criteria you will set for your team? Whom would you like to draft in the first pick? Brainstorm some creative ways to gather your team. What strengths and expertise do you bring to the table to share? By Kate Steinbacher

“To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.”
~Henri Bergson

The Power Of Listening

Have you heard the saying? “We have two ears and one mouth to let us know that we should listen twice as much as we speak.”—unknown


One of the most important skills to hone as a coach of  managers and individuals is the ability to listen. Listening is not only about the words, but also about meanings spoken and not spoken, the tone of the voice, the speed with which the person expresses themselves, the breathing patterns and the volume and words that are chosen. Each aspect brings something to the table of understanding and learning.

Becoming a good listener can improve your employment, promotion and relationship opportunities.


Everyone wants to be heard. We all have opinions and ideas that often need a listener to help them grow to maturity. Sometimes it may be that it helps us feel respected or valued when we are heard by another. There are many varied reasons why being heard is important for us. Think about the people in your life and work. With whom would you rather be stranded on an island or any place for that matter: a thoughtful listener and communicator or one that speaks constantly and rarely takes a breath? It is generally unanimous: the thoughtful listener wins!

With that person you thought of in mind, let’s discuss HOW we can become better listeners and the reasons that it will positively impact our world of work. The how is not all that easy. Developing good listening skills requires two things: One; we honestly recognize where we are on the good listener scale and begin to evaluate ourselves and two; we break old listening habits that are not working and establish new ones that enhance our ability to communicate and learn.

Recognizing our hindering listening skills requires the help of  a trusted colleague or a friend or a coach from whom you can hear constructive feedback. Rarely do we realize on our own that we are not listening. Ask these trusted people to evaluate your listening skills. Do they feel heard by you? Do they think that you valued their input, ideas and stories? Ask them both; the reasons that they do feel heard and valued and also why not. Have you ever played the child’s game of Simon Says? It is all about listening.

One habit that may be recognized as hindering listening, especially when we are nervous, perhaps in an interview, might be that of finding ourselves thinking of how we will respond to the speaker instead of truly listening. We are so worried about our intelligent response that we can often completely miss what is being said. Another hindering habit is thinking of a similar story that we can relate. This often comes across as one-up-manship. Can you relate to a time when you told a pretty good story or offered an insight, only to have your “listener” immediately tell a bigger story? When that happens, there can be a sense that the listener does not really care about us, or what we have to share, but they are concerned only about themselves. Usually this is NOT the listener’s intension, but it can easily be understood in that negative manner.

Becoming a good listener is to evaluate ourselves with help from trusted friends, create awareness, and replace old habits with listening for the many aspects of what a person is trying to communicate. You will be amazed by what you can learn if you truly listen.

Once you have discovered some of your listening traps, start your self-awareness campaign. When you notice yourself thinking of a response instead of listening, stop yourself mentally and open your ears and mind to what is being said. Realize that a good listener will be valued for taking a moment to consider what is being said and responding thoughtfully, and perhaps not immediately.

Now here is the reason Why: It is more often in OUR best interest to have truly heard the information and to respond more slowly and thoughtfully. Think of times when you have said yes, committing yourself to a responsibility, and moments later could have kicked yourself for agreeing. What about being in an interview situation. Have you emerged from an interview and could not think of anything that they told you? You spent your energy telling them about yourself and probably selling yourself, but did you hear them? Do you have enough information to make a careful decision about accepting a position if they ask you? There are so many job seekers that do not listen and end up in a position that solves their problem of unemployment but they are underemployed, frustrated and unhappy. The same can apply to the opposite side of the desk with interviewers. Often, we tell the potential employee everything about the position and the person that should fill it and never really get to know who the candidate is and whether they will truly be a good match for the position and the company.

When we are good listeners we can have our minds opened to new ideas, we can learn fascinating things about the people around us allowing us to attract and create valuable connections and relationships, we can make more informed and thoughtful decisions.

~~By Kate Steinbacher

Coaches Challenge:

Put together a team of trusted colleagues or bring in a coach and ask for constructive feedback to discover your listening quotient. Create self-awareness around your listening skills. Remember the reasons that you have two ears & one mouth!